Stop Asking Me Why Will I Only Have One Child

Why Will I Only Have One Child


This is the one question I hear almost every day. And no, I don’t have a legit reason to have only one child.

Why Will I Only Have One Child

I suffered from postnatal depression.
I have limited resources.
I can’t have more kids.
I don’t like kids.
Raising my daughter wasn’t a really pleasant experience for me. She drives me crazy.
She have any disability or illness that takes up a lot of time or resources.
I am too old for another kid.
I am not happily married.

I could continue… All those answers would be great reasons for people around me to stop asking why I won’t have another child. They would accept those answers because they are all good reasons. Yes, good reasons, but not my reasons.

My answer is:
I just don’t feel any need for another child. I’m all set. My family is complete the way it is and I am happy. I am happy – isn’t that good enough reason?

Stop Asking Me Why Will I Only Have One Child

It is for me, but people just can’t understand that for me having one kid is great.

As long as you are taking care of your kids, you should be able to have as many of them as you want, be it one or five. I know my daughter would benefit from having a brother or sister, but it would also bring a lot of new challenges in our life that I honestly don’t want. Having one child affords you so much more one-on-one time and I love that. I grew up in a big family and I loved it, but I always wished I had more one-on-one time with my parents.

So, I have my reasons why will I only have one child and I stick to my reasons. My reasons are maybe not good enough for you, but they are good enough for me. And because of that, please just stop asking me why will I only have one child – if you don’t really want to hear and understand my answers.


  1. I used to get very frustrated when people asked my husband and I when we were going to have more kids – and were sometimes quite cruel when we said we weren’t! One child was the perfect number for us as well and our family has always felt complete as the 3 of us. My son is now 22 and he is happy to tell anyone how much he enjoyed his childhood – and I was an only child too and absolutely loved it. As you say, it is up to the individuals how many children they have – and no one else should have anything to say about it! Thank you for sharing this post with us at the Hearth and Soul Hop.

  2. Every decision you make (including how many kids to have) is a trade-off! It’s really not up to anyone else to make that call, except for themselves, of course. 😉 We have a large (soon to be larger) family and I have very strong feelings about that being the right choice for us, and that’s really all that matters.

  3. I couldn’t have said it better myself! From the moment my son was born I knew I never wanted him to have share me, or feel left out. Never having to wonder if he was enough or the favorite on having anxieties because he wished he could have more time with me. Most people will never understand no matter how many times you explain it. I husband was extremely upset at my decision to have my tubes completely taken out because I wanted no chance of my son to ever have to share anything. That may seem like I spoil him but in all actuality I have been able to spend so much quality time with him he is one of the most well behaved child I have seen and I get compliments on it all the time! To me choosing to have only one is the most selfless thing you can do for your child and I believe more people should be doing this. Spread the word ladies!!!!


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