How can you help a child with low self esteem

child with low self esteem


It’s not easy to have a child with low self esteem. It can break your heart.
It will break your heart.

Hearing things like: “Nobody likes me”, or “I am so stupid”, from a mouth of your precious one can really be heartbreaking. What can we do as a parents to help your child with low self esteem to build some confidence? There are some steps we can take, but you still need to have in mind that the same things don’t work for everyone.

Well, as a parent, at least we need to try to help them…

How can you help a child with low self esteem

child with low self esteem

1. Don’t deny their feelings.
The natural reaction of a parent, when hearing such things from a child, is to try to deny them. That is the worst thing you can do. If your child really has no friends, then telling him he does will just make you look silly. It would be much better to talk to your child about all the reasons he might not have any friends and ways to improve that situation. Don’t push them if they don’t want to talk.

2. Talk with his teachers or ask for a professional help.
Maybe you think your child is just quirky, but it would be good if you seek another opinion. Discuss this with his school teachers and see if they have some thoughts on why your child has low self esteem. We can’t ignore that maybe something happened to him like bullying, that we are not aware of.

3. Organize a party or a sleepover.
If they have such a hard time making friends, try helping them by organizing a perfect party. Invite few kids over a make it fun. Give your child a chance to bond with someone. Maybe he will be more relaxed when he is in his house, with his toys and books.

4. Encourage him to start a hobby.
Hobby is a great thing for a child with low self esteem. It can help them gain confidence and meet some new friends.

5. Love him unconditionally.
Enough said. Child with low self esteem needs you to show them love!


  1. These are great tips! I had low self-esteem as a child. I think, for parents, they can feel like it’s their fault, but it isn’t necessarily. I think some kids are just wired differently, just a need a little more support and shows of unconditional love than others. All we can do it support them as best we can.

  2. Thank you for this…I really needed this, I have a daughter who not only has low self esteem but is a natural pessimist. It is honestly heart breaking. I cannot wrap my head around it because she is so bouncy and full of joy, and is the sweetest little girl I know. She tells me daily that she does not have friends and it makes me cry. I have spoke to her teacher(s) about this and I hope things get better as they year goes by.

  3. Thanks for linking up to the Tips & Tricks Linky Party. I think many people will find this information so useful. I myself have a 23 and 21 year old daughter and sometimes they still struggle with self esteem. It just breaks your heart as a parent. Love the hobby idea. I’m going to mention this to both of them.

  4. I agree with all of these. Making home a safe haven for children falls under love unconditionally. It’s so important those kids know that when they are at home their full worth is recognized and valued.

  5. It really can take work to help a child build their self-esteem – and it is SO important! Thank you for sharing these excellent tips with us at the Hearth and Soul Hop.


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