As you may have read in other sections of this blog, I’m a stay at home mom of a 2-year-old girl. It isn’t always an easy task of course, but I find it incredibly rewarding.
If you are also a stay at home mom or dad, something you’ve probably heard a lot is people discussing the decisions you make, and telling you that you are wasting your time, abilities, and blah blah blah. The truth is, I’m tired of hearing people who say that because I’m a stay at home mom (SAHM), I don’t have anything “valuable” to offer. So, here is what I want them to know:
A stay at home mom doesn’t need an office to be productive and make money
Nowadays, we have a lot of options to earn a living that don’t necessarily require to go to a place and be there the whole day. To think otherwise is outdated, really. We are living in the Wi-Fi era, and there are millions of women- including me- who prefer having more time to spend with their children, instead of a regular full-time job in an office. Launching an own business can be tough at first, I agree on that, but it’s not impossible. All a stay at home mom needs is a good idea, self-motivation and a flexible schedule – and here you have a work at home mom.
Not having a boss is simply AWESOME
Me and my daughter can spend hours playing peek-a-boo in a park or maybe just wandering around. The best part is that I don’t need to ask permission to anyone. For that reason, the quality time I can have with my little girl is shaped by us and not limited by a tight schedule. Besides, I can always continue things from where I left them, and that won’t affect my performance at work. I’m not gonna lie to you, being able to focus is hard at times because kids are kids, right? Sometimes I can’t work as much as I’d like to, but I still wouldn’t change this for anything in the world.
No, I’m not all baby 24/7
Everybody need some time for themselves. So, even though I’m a full-time mom, I also have my spare time. I read, go to the gym and talk to other adults. I enjoy investing hours in my well-being because I think it’s important that I’m happy if I want my child to be too.
I have goals and projects in life that fulfill me and challenge me at the same time. I’m proactive, creative and ambitious. The thing is that, above all that, I choose to be a stay at home mom. If you thought that I was wasting my time and abilities, you are totally wrong.
Being a stay at home mom is my choice, so say no more
One of the best things that being a stay at home mom has given me, is the possibility of watching my daughter in every step she takes. I have seen her gaining confidence and attempting new things, and we have created a super special bond that makes me proud and fulfills me in every possible way. I chose this, because as soon as I saw her I was determined to provide her with the best years at home I could. I consider it a gift, because this is a once in a lifetime opportunity and no paycheck will ever be enough to pay for that.
So, in conclusion, I think that I’m speaking behalf of a lot of stay at home mothers when I say to those who have belittled us: It’s my life and my choice. Please, say no more.